Loving another person is a privilege, not a right. We are not promised the love of another.
You want to know when Jeremy and I reconnected? We had both finally embraced the idea that we may not be privileged to love another person through this life; we both accepted that God might not have created us for marriage. With that acceptance came the full weight of the privilege it truly is to have someone to love and go through life with.
So many of us assume we need to have someone to love and be loved by..so many assume that is their right. Don’t you understand, assuming that “right” simply degrades the individual you so crave?
When you come to believe that someone or something is your right, they become nothing more than a piece of property to you; even if they are made up in your mind. I don’t know about you, but that doesn’t sound like love to me.
LOVING another is a privilege, not a right. You are not promised the privilege of loving another.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. -1 Corinthians 13:4-8
I say all this to note:
1. I have been in the single person’s shoes..many, many times. I get it. It hurts & you just want things to go your way. But where you are, is a gift. Learn to embrace this time with God & with yourself. Being single is God’s way of saying: “You won’t grow in the ways I need you to, if you are with someone right now.”
2. My love for Jeremy is the greatest privilege of my life. He encourages me to dive deeper in my faith on the daily & pursues me with the gracious attitude of this relationship being a gift. He will never be my right, he will always be my privilege. He is not mine to have, he is God’s.
Loving another is a privilege, not a right.